She totally understood. She has had this surgery herself. She called it fat-girl syndrome. Even though she is at or close to her goal (I didn't ask, she just looked like she was), she said that she still feels like she's too big to fit into certain sizes, or through the door.
She said, I should probably start buying smaller clothes. At my highest I was in a loose 3x or sometimes a 4x. My 4x clothes are really loose and my 3x's are loose but wearable and even though this is the case, the thought of even trying on a 2x is too out of my reality right now. Because I really don't feel like I've lost enough weight to be in a smaller size. I really (at almost 60 pounds lost ---- SIXTY) do not feel smaller.
Very frustrating.
A little scary too -- frankly, not sure if I'm more scared to feel smaller or that I'm not feeling smaller.
She suggested that I go to a store...not buy anything...but try some smaller stuff on. And by smaller, I mean 2x stuff -- it's not like she's asking me to be self-defeatest and try on a size 6 something.
We did both agreed that it's great wearing scrubs..because you can get away with wearing those through a couple different sizes.
I was shopping with a friend and I saw a pretty cute outfit. I also have to go to a wedding in October (husband's boss's son's wedding). Soooo, I thought, why not? I bought it in a smaller size (2x). I didn't try it on (too scary) but I do think with the way things are going I'll be there by October (even if I won't feel like I look differently)
Here's the outfit. Cream colored sweater set (and yeah, I'm going to wear pearls with it, because pearls and sweater sets go together like PB&J). And a long A-line skirt with a fun raised patter on it.
It's actually an outfit, I'd wear as a skinny person (yeah, yeah, I run a little a preppy that way). I feel myself getting closer to shopping at regular stores...I, at least, can shop in the big section at the regular stores now...The 3x's there run a little smaller than the 3x's at, say LBry-ant or online and I was limited to very few choices. So now I have some more choices...I'm liking that.
Oh yeah, also liking the health benefits and more energy...Because it's not JUST about the clothing choices....(insert wink here).
HAPPY LABOR DAY! one of the nice benefits of being a school nurse is holidays OFF.
It definitely takes longer to see size changes earlier on in the process. I remember I had to lose almost 40 lbs before I absolutely could not keep my Pre surgery clothes on at all. You will find the more weight you lose the less lbs it will take to see changes in the your body/clothing size. And if you are exercising regularly you will see it even faster.
ReplyDeleteJust remember (I learned this from What Not To Wear) if something doesn't fit you properly --- it's the clothing that doesn't fit you NOT you that doesn't fit the clothing.
It's funny I give that advice to my friend all the time...and am unable to follow it myself :D
DeleteI am 95 pounds down and I have a hard time adjusting my eyes to see any difference. I know my clothes are too big on me. My shirts are starting to slip off my shoulders when I run. But I am not ready to really see what size I am. I have no problem telling my mom to buy smaller clothes.. that her clothes are too big... that she would look better wearing a size that really fits. But I can't practice what I preach. ;)
ReplyDeleteI totally have fat girl syndrome. I actually went to counseling earlier in the year once I saw all of the sagging skin starting (and continuing...). I still want to cover a lot of myself up.
ReplyDeleteLady, if I were you I would have bought that in a 1X. Keep the tags and the receipt. You might be surprised. :)
ReplyDeleteI agree with Ronnie!
ReplyDeleteBut yeah...it's so, so hard to see the changes. The only way I can actually see them is in photos. I absolutely cannot in the mirror!
One of the ways I get around this is shopping at the thrift store, I just go to the section that I think is close to my size and start grabbing and try a bunch of stuff on and try to not look at the tags. :)
I agree with Ronnie...a 1x will probably fit by October...save those tags!
ReplyDeleteMark me in the same column as Ronnie. It's takes a lot longer fo rour eyes to catch up to our bodies.
ReplyDeleteKeep up the hard work! One thing I’ve found to be extremely helpful and useful as a supplement to my current diet/exercise plan is Fullbar (www.fullbar.com). Their products (Fullbar shakes) have helped me lose weight and learn how to maintain that weight-loss.
ReplyDeleteFull bar was created by the MD that did my VSG surgery....I've tried it before.
DeleteAlso agree with Ronnie :)
ReplyDeleteVery pretty outfit!!
ReplyDeleteoh man! I get this! Who knew getting smaller would be so much work mentally?
ReplyDeleteI went to a wedding during my weight loss journey. I was down about 80 lbs. already, but still weighing in the 240's, and I found a pretty sweater and skirt to wear. Even though I thought I looked great (for some reason I have not one picture of me that night, I took a lot of pictures, but never handed the camera to anyone else evidently), I think the outfit was a 3X. (At 328 lbs., which was my starting weight, I was wearing 5X pretty consistently.) I was very very proud of myself. But all evening at the reception, only one person noticed that I had lost weight. 80 lbs. Hardly anyone noticed. It was a tad bit disappointing, but I knew I had a ways to go yet and I did get to my goal weight 9 months later.
ReplyDeleteThat little heavyset goal who told me that I looked great that night, I LOVE HER! If and when she goes on her own weight loss journey, I will be her biggest supporter!